When I was younger, my dreams seemed more obtainable. Time was my friend rather than an inpatient usher. So as I began to paddle in the river of my dreams, new possibilities began to hatch into my world. Naivety though made it confusing to know which of my dreams to follow and in turn which ones I should incubate.
After a brief stint at working for myself, my mortgage rate went up, I got scared and jumped back into an office job. Deep down this was my way of running from what I really wanted to be. Still I kept my hand in my projects. As I started to get a bit older I realised I wouldn’t be plucked out of the norm of my monotone existence, no one was going to rescue me, nor were they waiting in the back ground to make me the next big thing. Like most people, my responsibilities had grown and consequently I’d stop doing the things I loved.
In hindsight my problem was I was living in a fantasy rather than making conscious steps towards my dreams. I see this happen so many times with other people. Sometimes we get more comfortable with pretending that we want to go for something than actually embracing the uncertainty of doing it. It can be a number of reasons like money problems, being afraid to try, shine, not wanting others to feel insecure around us, being scared to fail, or being frightened to succeed! The quote by Marine Williamson sums it up perfectly. ‘Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us’
So whether you have always had the same dream, only just discovered it or still don’t know what you want to do I hope my tips can help!
Tip 1: Know yourself, what do you like, and what do you want to deliver to the world?
Method: Get the largest bit of paper you can find and divide it into two. Next start by making a list of what equates to a happy life for you. Examples could be: more free time, no money struggles, starting a business or finding true love. Don’t think of the how; instead just write about what you want.
If you get stuck, think back to a time in your childhood off an activity that made you happy. What was it and what feeling did it evoke? Once you have finished the list, go back and see if you can also name the feelings associated with everything else on the list. An example being that a new home may symbolise to you security.
Next make a list of things on the other side of the paper that you don’t like about your life. What feelings are associated with this list? Upon completion of this stage, you will have a better understanding of what you do and don’t like.
For the things you like think laterally of how to get them. For example feeling abundance could come from walking in nature rather than your bank balance.
For the things you don’t like think again of lateral ways to fix these. What is the opposite feeling? So the opposite to feeling anxious is feeling calm. Perhaps when you feel anxious you could meditation to achieve calmness?
A book I recommend reading is The Artist way by Julia Cameron. It should take you around four- six weeks to complete and will get your creative side going. Even if you don’t see yourself as creative it helps everyone create more of what they do want and less of what they don’t.
Another amazing book is this Sc—w work let’s play by John Williams. It teaches you how to make a living out of what you love doing rather than seeing work as a means to an end.
Tip 2: Take lots of baby steps
How: do at least one thing every day towards your goal. You have to make the effort to change things. I’ve in the past procrastinated for years with regret. Yes, life is also about knowing when to let stuff come to you too. However, things aren’t going to come to you if you are doing nothing!
Martin Luther King said ‘Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.’
Tip 3: Have courage
How: Take the rough with the smooth and embrace the whole of life as it is now instead of wanting to be someone else or somewhere else all the time. If you lack in courage like we all can at times take note from Gandhi
“The difference between what we do and what we are capable of doing would suffice to solve most of the world’s problem.”
Find something you are reasonably good at or have the passion for and go for it. You can spend your whole life planning but as Gandhi said ‘An ounce of practice is worth a ton of therapy.’
Finally enjoy the journey rather than worrying about the big picture. You don’t have to give up your job. Though if that is what you need to do build a few savings and take the plunge. The girl in the picture maybe dry, floating around above her dreams, but she knows she can’t stay on the bed forever. She has to take the plunge into the unknown. She knows there is a shore there she has the equipment to help her swim so if she could just let go of her fear. Put it this way if she stays on the bed much longer she may drift so far away that she won’t be able to get to land. Life is short and we never know what is around the corner, so start today.
Janey Bowyer (The Word Sprite)
NO MATTER WHAT I DID, I FELT ILL AT PEACE FOR YEARS UNTIL SOMEONE SUGGESTED MEDITATION AND YOGA. MY JOURNEY HAS BEEN CHALLENGING. I REALISE NOW THAT I MADE LIFE UNNECESSARILY DIFFICULT DUE TO MY SET IDEAS OF HOW I THOUGHT I SHOULD FEEL.
If I’d been given the meditation tips that I’m about to share with you, I feel the whole process would have been easier. I now look forward to my morning meditation and can’t imagine life without it. For a free meditation guide and free online yoga class link, join my wonderful mailing list community. I share tips on how to bring a sense of balance, equilibrium and set achievable happiness goals, in a world that seems to be getting busier by the moment!
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