My partner often reminds me that knowing what my destiny is, and what I stand for are paramount. He says that if I know this information it can act as a compass in my life, navigating the way.
I feel he has a good point. He’s an inspiration. Still, enough of my gushing. What does knowing our destiny really mean?
For me, my destiny gives clarity and direction. Believe it or not, finding out what it is can be easier than imagined. I know my biggest obstacle has always been myself! I’ve either allow myself to get distracted or given up far too easily!
If you find you are going around in circles in life or even find it hard to make decisions, try asking yourself the questions further down in the article.
It’s important you answer all of them. At the end of the exercise, you should have the structure to write your personal statement. This will help you to define your own unique path!
I took inspiration from the authors Louise Hay, James Redcliff and Jon Williams when writing this article.
To know where we are heading we first need to know where we came from. People that come into our lives are like mirrors, and nothing is a bigger mirror than our parents, partners or guardians.
Part 1: Set aside some time and in peace and quiet make a list of at least five influential people in your life if not more. Start with your parents and then move onto close family. Those who have had a profound effect on your life. With compassion, love and truth write down the answers to the following questions for each member.
What are/were your mother’s good traits?
What are/were her negative ones?
How did she inspire you?
What did she teach you?
Where did she succeed in life?
Where did she fail?
Why do think that is?
How are you like your mother?
How are you not like your mother?
Keep going with all your family members.
Next answer the questions from above for yourself but also add the following questions:
What patterns do you keep making that do not serve you?
What limiting beliefs do you hold?
What things do you enjoy doing?
What things are you doing that you don’t enjoy?
What do think is keeping you from reaching your goals?
What dreams and aspirations do you have?
What are you doing daily to reach them?
When did you last succeed at something? Why is that?
When did you last feel you failed at something? Why is that? Looking back was it really a failure?
This part took me a bit of time to do, so don’t worry if does for you. It is worth the effort I feel.
Review all your list and look for patterns. I normally highlight them with a pen.
It is very insightful I feel to do this as often we can repeat the same mistakes.
Next write a page in greater detail of what you learnt from your mother. You can look at your answers above.
How you can improve yourself? How can you magnify their gifts and improve on their challenges?
Do the same with other close family members. It may feel like a lot of writing but it is worth it.
Next write a few paragraphs taking this information and write out what is your life’s mission. Your personal statement. Let it just flow.
Here is an example of a personal statement:
My purpose is to inspire and love both myself and others. Self-love and forgiveness can heal hearts. My gentleness is my strength and yet I comfortably set boundaries.
Through my heart, self-exploration, creativity, writing and teaching I contribute by spreading magic and positivity.
Letting love guide me instead of fear I am in my power. I trust myself and no longer need to look to others for validation of who I am.
I exercise balance, patience, gratitude, trust and faith.
I find balance between my parents values as well as my own…. Letting go of fear and exercising care and courage.
I hope this helps. It is a lot of writing but the skill is to be truthful and to take your time. I worked on my personal statement for a month before I was happy with it. Yours might come straight away. Any questions do ask!
In loving memory of David Bowie. You inspired the world with your creativity. An example of what it really is to live one’s true destiny. You always were and always will be limitless.
I’m not a prophet or a stone aged man, just a mortal with potential of a superman. I’m living on. David Bowie
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