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Being down a rabbit hole is that feeling of being stuck or lost in life. Frustratingly, once down one, it can feel difficult to get out; especially if our perception of reality has become distorted with fear.
“If the doors of perception were cleansed every thing would appear to man as it is, Infinite. For man has closed himself up, till he sees all things thro’ narrow chinks of his cavern.” William Blake Born 1757
I think we fall into rabbit holes when struggling too much against life. Rabbit holes can stem from having a tenacious resistance to the present rather than learning to work with the flow. Lack of faith can cause confusion leading to an unmalleable sense of how we believe things should be. Sadly this way of thinking can often dig the deepest of rabbit holes.
Over time, I’ve come to the conclusion that setbacks are often blessings incognito; like sheep dressed up in wolves clothing. It’s okay to end up in Rabbit holes sometimes, in a sense they do us a big favour, forcing us to revalue where we are going. If only we could realise this at the time, and save ourselves so much unnecessary suffering. Good old hindsight eh!
If you don’t, believe me, try making a list of all the times when things went seemingly wrong in your life. Start from your childhood up to now. They can be as small or big as you like.
Next review that list and write next to each entry how some things then changed for the better. It might be tiny or in contrast, life changing. The key is to see the blessing in anything, even if it is so small that you need to dig deep into the process to discover it.
I’m not saying to like everything bad that happens to you either. That’s not real. Denying or numbing feelings, can, in turn, lead to them catching up with a vengeance when we least expect it. Better to process them as they come up then bury them for an even rainier day.
I do feel that there are gems hidden inside the stuff we don’t like. In any situation if we try to find at least one thing that we can be grateful for, even if that gratitude only extends to the lesson learnt, it can have the power to heal.
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Indeed, life can often feel like a big learning ground; sometimes there are rewards other times there are great big falls in the shape of disappointments, setbacks and obstacles. Trying to view life as an adventure can have a profound change, bringing happiness and contentment, instead of fear and judgement.
Here are my top tips on how to write you way out of a rabbit hole.
Stuck, not sure where to go? Confused. Fear not!
Paper and pen
20 minutes every morning. So if this means going to bed 20 minutes earlier, each day then so be it. Yes, quilts and pillows are nice. Staying in bed can be seductive. What about a bit of short-term discomfort in the shape of getting up earlier? This can result in long-term happiness!
Still sleepy? Tip: I splash my face with cold water.
No checking the smartphone etc… either. Peace and quiet? Good! Now write!
No censoring. You may rant a lot to start with. The ego will be trying to take over the writing. Let it have it’s day. It will get bored soon enough and then the real gems will come. Don’t rush or force this. Let the words be like torches in your maze of life.
No correcting spelling mistakes or grammar!
Only you are going to read this!
You must do this every day for at least 60 days.
You can do it!
Even when you feel better, write!
When you feel sad, write!
When you are on holiday, write!
Trust and then the path out of to the rabbit hole will reveal itself!
Being stuck is a chance for growth!
Stick with it and please let me know how you do.
The Word Sprite