Difficult personalities can come in all forms. They can be loud and terrifying or discreetly be undermining. Deep down though I believe most people want to get on but due to insecurities may feel the need to steal power from others. Yet, they will usually do anything to make us feel bad. They derive their false pleasure from our grievances and distresses, and gradually we allow them to erode our sense of self-worth.
Difficult people are difficult because of our helplessness about the way their presence near us affects us. Their power-talking swipes can disturb and also feel traumatic. Yet, by a switch in mindset and by taking a more yogic approach it’s another chance to feel stronger while dealing with such challenges. Dealing with these kinds of situations offers an opportunity to grow, and develops equanimity and resilience.
Here is how yoga can help
1. It empowers us to maintain our cool
In the Bhagavadgita, there’s a verse in chapter two “Samatvam Yog Uchyte” that means the one who follows the path of Yoga remains equanimous during any unbalanced situation. He doesn’t get affected by the misconduct of confusing people and takes it easy. This state of mind combats any unpleasant experience and makes one feel stronger.
I would love to hear other inspiring verses from other books. Please share some with me!
2. Non – violence gives strength to avoid escalating issues
According to the Patanjali Yoga Sutra, a Yogi should not harm or hurt any creature by any means (i. e. action or deed, words or speech and mind or thoughts) even though he is hurt. This enables a Yogi to reduce conflicts and lead a peaceful life that ultimately fills his inner space with positive energy.
3. It helps us to take a firm stand
Yoga helps us get rid of moral dilemma. One becomes very clear as to where take a stand. This harnesses energy because a Yogi aims to detach from thinking too much about the unfortunate situation and is very much aware of his action and its consequences. The more present he becomes, the more he becomes resilient.
4. It reduces our emotional dependency on other people
It makes us emotionally healthy. Meditation plays a vital role in this regard as it levels up our emotional intelligence. Thus while dealing with difficult people we can see life through more of a neutral window.
5. It helps us to regulate our responses more consciously
Since we can’t control other’s behaviour, we can instead balance our reactions to any given situation. Here comes the concept of Karma Yoga that deals with cause and effect. A Yogi surrenders his every single Karma to the universe with the aid to totally detached from the results. He chooses his responses very wisely to resolve the issue. This Karmic concept propels divine powers in one’s true self.
By practising different asana, you will achieve flexibility. And if you start staying in each pose for a longer duration, you will start gaining strength. Remember to build up the time gradually though to avoid being violent to oneself!
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